For example, your mother-in-law is not likely to appreciate “Hatchet Face”; it’s only the rare son-in-law who tolerates being called “Meathead” by his father-in-law. Most of us aren’t comfortable calling our mother-in-law “Mom”; after all, we already have one “Mom” (and one is usually more than enough). Besides, what happens if you do call your mother-in-law “Mom” and both “Moms” are in the room at the same time? Do you end up with Mom #1 and Mom #2? Who gets to be the Alpha Mom? Here’s an example of what can happen when the issue isn’t resolved … Pretty silly, eh? Unfortunately, it’s fairly typical. Like so many newlyweds, Sarah and Bill had never figured out what to call each other’s parents. The issue dragged on so long that it finally took on a life of its own, like the meatloaf in the back of the refrigerator or the rumor about alligators in the New York City sewers. As she turned the corner, Sarah saw her mother-in-law heading for the bus stop. Sarah quickened her pace, but her mother-in-law was moving even faster. “Darn those senior aerobics,” she thought. As Sarah picked up the speed, her mother-in-law kicked it up a notch. “It’s almost as though she’s trying to out-run me,” Sarah thought, red-faced and panting. Finally Sarah had enough. “Millie!” she called out to get her mother-in-law’s attention. Her mother-in-law stopped. A moment passed and she turned around to face her daughter-in-law. “I was wondering when you’d finally decide what to call me,” she said. “Millie is fine with me.” If you haven’t settled on names for your parents-in-law, you’ll notice the situation becoming increasingly tense. No one wants to be the one to say what everyone knows: You never address your parents-in-law directly. Everyone else in the family will tiptoe around the issue. Worst of all, if you don’t establish a name for your mother-in-law or father-in-law, you’re all too likely to end up talking to your in-laws through other people – or most tragically, not at all.
